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Four Questions Smart Leaders Ask to Build Employee Relationships by Phillip Van Hooser

If you lead others and want to take your success (and that of your organization) to the next level, knowing how to build employee relationships is critical. I’m talking about engaged, honest, productive employee relationships. But often, leaders are too afraid to ask an employee’s opinion of the leader’s performance. If you really want to be successful, you really want to build employee relationships that are strong—and you’re really brave—ask your people these four questions. 

If you lead others and want to take your success (and that of your organization) to the next level, knowing how to build employee relationships is critical. I’m talking about engaged, honest, productive employee relationships. But often, leaders are too afraid to ask an employee’s opinion of the leader’s performance. If you really want to be successful, you really want to build employee relationships that are strong—and you’re really brave—ask your people these four questions. 

4 Questions Smart Leaders Ask to Build Employee Relationships 

Before I get to the questions, let me offer a word of caution. If you really want to build employee relationships that support individual or organizational success—you must be emotionally prepared for the responses you may get. Period. 

If you, as a leader, ask any of these questions then counter with a defensive, angry rebuttal, you’ve shut down any hope to build employee relationships that are honest, trusted or productive. 

With that in mind, here are the four questions smart—brave—leaders ask their people.  

1. How am I doing? 

Your first purpose with this question is to initiate a productive conversation. And you want to discover how satisfied, how confident your people are in your leadership. But the purpose is not to get your employees to tell you how wonderful you are. Asking your followers for feedback may initially seem strange to them. They may be thinking, “Is he serious? This must be a trick question.” or “Can I trust her if I answer honestly?” 

But to build employee relationships that are beyond transactional, leaders must be willing to open the door with honest, direct dialogue. Your people need to know you are serious about hearing their views. And they need to be reassured  you have their best interests and the best interests of the organization in mind. Your people need to know you have their back. 

2. What have I screwed up lately? 

You want your people to be encouraged to tell you not only the good news, but most especially the bad news. Often our actions and engagements with employees are well-meant, but may be perceived in a completely different way. So leaders can’t assume “no news is good news.” 

When leaders are willing to accept negative feedback and take action to correct their performance, employees notice! Not only does this open the lines of communication with employees, it also models behavior leaders want in their followers. When you’re trying to build employee relationships, that’s a win-win! 

3. What are other leaders doing that impress you? 

This question helps you tap into your followers’ experience with other leaders. The most successful leaders understand the unique motivations of their people. And this question helps you understand specifically what each follower likes in their leader—what they respect, what they favorably respond to. 

4.  What can I do to help you right now? 

Want to build engaged, committed employee relationships? Ask this question, then act on the response, and you clearly show your level of commitment to your people. That commitment from their leader is something highly valued by employees! 

One final word of caution. Talk is cheap when leaders are attempting to build trusted, engaged relationships with employees. Being brave enough to merely ask these questions will not be enough. When employees know you know the answers to these questions—they will expect you to take action.  

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Phillip Van Hooser, CSP, CPAE is the recipient of the 2019 Cavett Award from the National Speakers Association. He is committed to helping organizations transform their business outcomes by transforming the talent of their people. His book We Need to Talk: Building Trust When Communicating Gets Critical is available from Sound Wisdom on February 18, 2020 and can be preordered from AmazonBarnes & NobleBooks-a-Million, and Porchlight Books

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How to Define Professionalism by Phillip Van Hooser

There are a lot of people who value professionalism, but there aren’t as many who practice professionalism. I often get asked, “Phil, what’s your definition of professionalism?” Even though there are many definitions to consider, defining professionalism—for me—must focus on practical application. Here’s my definition.

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There are a lot of people who value professionalism, but there aren’t as many who practice professionalism. I often get asked, “Phil, what’s your definition of professionalism?” Even though there are many definitions to consider, defining professionalism—for me—must focus on practical application. Here’s my definition.  

How to Define Professionalism 

Professionalism is the advanced level at which isolated individuals perform specific tasks or activities. Let me break that down for just a minute. 

  1. Work Harder, Go Further 
    First, “the advanced level…” I oftentimes simply say that advanced means “good enough is not good enough” for a professional. In other words, when someone says, “That will do” or “That will pass,” a professional realizes there is still more work to do. The “advanced level” is going past what most people would do to what more could or should be done. So the first part of defining professionalism is the advancement of effort—we work harder and we go further. 

  2. When No One Is Watching 
    Secondly, “the advanced level at which isolated individuals…” We don’t earn or prove our professionalism only in front of a customer or an audience. We earn or prove our professionalism when no one is watching. Is our commitment just as secure when there is no one around as it is when we are trying to impress someone? 

  3. Best Effort Always 
    “The advanced level at which isolated individuals perform…” In the end, we all have jobs to perform. Performing is not about a performance as if on stage, but on the other hand, professionals are always on stage. People are always watching us in our workplace, watching us as we interact with customers or with colleagues or even with subordinates. We are always performing, and we must always perform at our best. We must always put our best effort forward for professionalism to be evident. 

  4. Committed to Expectations 
    “The advanced level at which isolated individuals perform specific tasks or activities.” The first thing we must understand is what is expected of professionals. As soon as we understand what is expected, then we must commit ourselves to performing at high levels the tasks and activities assigned to us. 

I wrote about “the magic of service professionalism” in my customer service book Willie’s Way: 6 Secrets for Wooing, Wowing and Winning Customers and Their Loyalty

Magic (defined)…possessing distinctive qualities that produce unaccountable or baffling effects… It’s not based in the ‘woo-ooo-ooo’ realm of the paranormal. It does not depend solely on entertainment or enchantment to yield its positive effects. This definition comes closest to explaining the mysterious, mystifying, almost magnetic effect…service ‘magicians’ have on their customers. 

Seemingly magical effects on relationships with customers, employees, vendors—even family and friends—can be expected when we know how to define professionalism and diligently practice it. Professionalism isn’t magical, and it isn’t hard to define—professionalism is a simple process that is consistently and masterfully applied.

This article originally appeared on vanhooser.com. Phillip Van Hooser, CSP, CPAE is the recipient of the 2019 Cavett Award from the National Speakers Association. He is committed to helping organizations transform their business outcomes by transforming the talent of their people. His book Willie’s Way: 6 Secrets for Wooing, Wowing and Winning Customers and Their Loyalty is available from Sound Wisdom on September 3, 2019 and can be purchased from Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and other fine retailers.

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