Are You Living or Existing?
Are You Living or Existing?
By Kimanzi Constable, author of Are You Living Or Existing? 9 Steps to Change Your Life
Are you a morning person? Most people aren’t but I had no choice but to be. For years 12 years I got up at midnight to deliver bread.
When I was 19 years old it was great but as I got older and had a family, getting three hours a sleep a night wasn’t cutting it.
Here’s the problem that though: I didn’t have a college degree or any special skills, so I asked myself repeatedly, what could I do?
I dealt with it for as long as I could until three years ago, that was when I said enough is enough. For about two weeks I told everyone who would listen that I was changing my life and chasing my dreams.
After those two weeks, the doubt and fears started to creep back in and started to justify things to myself. I told myself I was living a good enough life.
It wasn’t until an entire year later that things at my job forced me to take action. During a rough patch where I was worried about losing this job, I fell back in love with something that I had lost, a love of writing.
I wrote about everything that was going on, the good and the bad and all the emotions that were running through my head. After about two weeks of writing away, I looked down to a full notebook.
It was in that two week period that I ran across the incredibly inspiring story of Amanda Hocking. When I saw what she did, I started to believe I could turn my collection of thoughts into an ebook and self-publish.
I didn’t have enough money to pay for all this because I was living paycheck to paycheck, so I worked as much overtime as possible to pay for my dream. The day that I hit that goal amount, I cried. My dream would finally become a reality.
I knew in order for this to be successful I would have to tap into social media, up to that point I completely resisted. So I signed up for every social media account possible and started promoting hard.
The way I marketed my first book could best be described as spamming, I tried to cram the book down people’s throats, it was not well received.
The day the book came out I expected to see at least 100 sales from friends and families, they had all promised. So when I logged onto Amazon, I was shocked to see a big fat ZERO!
As the day went on I kept logging back on Amazon and seeing the same result, no sales. I got depressed and bitter and started calling people out on social media, I lost all my friends and followers that day.
After watching my dream crash and burn, I didn’t even touch a laptop for two weeks. It took my wife and some good friends to show me that I had gone about this all wrong. I was so focused on leaving this job that I hated that I missed sight of my true calling: helping people stop settling, stop making excuses, so that they can live the life of their dreams.
During those two weeks a 19 year guy contacted me and said he could identify with my story and wanted my help. Even though I didn’t have any schooling or training, I helped him figure out what his dream job was and a plan to make it a reality. He got that job and his still going strong today.
After helping that young man, I found my calling, I found my dream. From that point on I told myself that if my book didn’t sell a single copy of my book, I would still help people in anyway I could.
Once I stopped focusing on the money, I focused on the message and truly became a writer. I wrote blog posts that were dedicated to help people. People started to respond to the writing and started to share my content.
As word started to spread here and there, a few people bought my book. Those people shared the book and more people bought it. It was three months later when I logged back onto Amazon and got the shock of my life when I saw that I had sold thousands of copies.
As they say, the rest is history. I self-published a second book, this time I used some actually strategy and focused on the message. To date both books have sold over 80,000 copies.
As if all this wasn’t enough, I got invited to speak at some conferences but I was terrified of speaking in public. My wife and those good friends convinced me that this was another way to spread the message, so I went to Huntington, West Virginia.
After that first conference I realized speaking was right for me, so I went after it. I have since spoken at events in 10 states and 5 countries, I spoke in Israel this past February.
What started off as frustration has turned into a message and now a movement that I have taken all over the world. So what’s the moral of this story? You can live the life of your dreams!
Whatever it is you’re trying to do, especially, can be possible with the right strategy. My book is the game plan I used to make all of this a reality and it can help you figure out what your dreams are and how to make them come true.